PER ASPERA AD ASTRA: Choices that change your life

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By Xenia S. Estrella

I did not choose to hemorrhage at 15, 16 and 17 years old, but I did choose to develop my love for musical theatre; and I was willing to go through physically and mentally taxing performance workshops that would have helped me get closer to my dream of being on stage, but actually had adverse effects on my health at the time.

I did not choose to get pregnant out of wedlock.  I am not proud of having done wrong, but I did choose to keep on seeing my daughter’s dad, and it was my choice to do more than just make out with him when she was conceived.

Ahhhh…choices.  According to various internet sources, an adult makes an average of 35,000 of them each day (is this for real?  I don’t know.  ‘The Leading Edge’ says it is).  

The capacity to take on one option or another started surrounding our beings at 12 months old, according to, ‘Early Childhood Today’; and our lives, as we get molded to become the people that we are, also depend on the different decisions — and non-decisions — that we’ve been making throughout our years.

Nobody makes all the right choices, all the time.  Obviously, we are not God.  Frustration and discontent, nervousness and fear, may naturally come as part of wrong judgments that we make, and we can possibly sulk for a while, grieve, maybe ask why bad things happen to us because of these then eventually, we learn to come to terms with ourselves; cope and say, “Ok, I just made a blunder”, then move on.  This would be the regular mistake cycle, as I see it.

It is unfortunate, though, that according to the World Health Organization in January 2020, more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression around the world.  Although much importance is presently being given to this illness, so much more needs to be done as the disease is not easily remedied and the numbers are still climbing.  People are being paralyzed and unable to become productive citizens; for themselves, their families and their communities.  Full potentials are not being developed and so the world is being deprived of wonderful opportunities that these people can, otherwise, bring.

Being too self-conscious, emitting a lack of confidence, and allowing sheer anxiety and depression to settle within us are choices that are born of a fearful mindset.  What we think of ourselves matters most.  No… it actually is the only thing that matters, most of the time.  So.  When we decide to turn this way of thinking around and find all means to recover from a slump or downright get out of holes we find ourselves in, then healing happens.  Our perspective in life will start showing beautiful possibilities, reachable goals and doable action steps.

“Nothing is impossible.  The word itself says, ‘I’m Possible’!”

  • Audrey Hepburn

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