By Xenia S. Estrella
It can be frustrating, disheartening or scary when plans don’t happen as we want. I am a single mom, and even if I know that my family is 100% supportive of my daughter and me, I still can’t completely shake off the feeling of concern when I look at my 12 year-old’s eyes and try to see into her future. I know she’ll be fine with all the assistance she’ll ever need, but I grew up in a traditional family set-up. I’m constantly praying that all the love and support we’re giving her now, are enough to mold her into the God-loving and God-fearing citizen she needs to be.
Whenever I feel unsure of myself, I just always remember that courage is not the absence of fear; it is rather the moving forward to do what needs to be done, despite the dread. Being very prayerful, I accept my frailties and rely on faith to pull me through any situation.
People learn from experience. There is nothing wrong about not wanting to go through uncomfortable and fearful circumstances brought about by similar situations in the past; it is heartbreaking, though, to see people damaged — and even paralyzed — by fear. It’s not right.
Daily actions form habits; habits build beliefs; and, beliefs define a person. Remember the lion in The Wizard Of Oz? He felt he was nothing (he just couldn’t get past his insecurities), until he realized he had courage within him, which we saw was already there if only he noticed in the beginning. Choices that encourage negative thinking, I believe, may feel rewarding at some point, but can only lead to complacency and forced happiness in the long run; a joy that may be based on apathy and fear of regret.
People who find their courage (in the right amount) find a way to get up from insecurities, develop self-fulfillment and get closer to their goals and desires; sooner rather than later. Courage pushes individuals to penetrate barriers and gain foresight into a better future. With courage, fears are crushed, action steps are taken and most importantly, individuals find more meaning in existence.
Courage builds resilience. These are skills needed by any individual who is held up by any physical or mental weakness in life. Lately, I have been getting clients who come to me for help in getting their businesses off the ground. They need a compass to find change in their business lives; clarity on what they want, and courage to build a strategy that they can implement so they can be happier and more fulfilled as they see the actual fruits of their labor starting to form.
It’s ok to be afraid. It’s but natural for people to be quite concerned about the unseen. What’s not ok, though, is to remain in fear. Unless acceptance, courage and resilience form part of any individual’s situation cycle (if you will), stability, successful endeavors and peace of mind may not be completely achieved.
Know that everything you need is already inside you. You may not be able to control the emotions you feel, but you do control your reactions to these. Take heart. You are definitely worth fighting for.
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