By Xenia S. Estrella
It’s one thing to just be mindful of mindset for relief — whether to see life as a glass half full or a glass half empty — and another to necessarily need to work on it so as not to get overtaken by stress because of all the goings-on in our lives that may just seem to pile up, one after another.
Yes, apparently, people with even a growth mindset (that is, positive and resilient) can get stressed, too. Of course. Stress is, basically, a natural occurrence. What’s interesting is that there seems to be a good kind of stress and a bad kind of stress. The good kind comes from accepting and enduring current difficulties that we expect happiness from, eventually; and the bad stress comes from the loss of inspiration which can bring with it a possibility for panic, and the loss of motivation to work for and pursue goals.
Considering the many situations that can challenge even the sun shiniest soul around, it is imperative to be aware; to strive for wellness, no matter how difficult life can be. Remember that tomorrow is another day. Situations can always get better so we should never give up on ourselves and everything positive that we believe in. Surely as we practice wellness, we all need to realize the simple ways necessary to cope with any given stressful situation.
- Breathe. Call me Ms. Breathe; I won’t mind. I just totally believe that the very simple activity of deep breathing, especially when under stress, can put the mind at ease, keep blood pressure on normal levels and therefore still allow us to smile through the worst situations so we can focus on finding ways to make circumstances better. The strategy doesn’t have to be complicated. Just breathe from the diaphragm. (Big tummy) inhale for 4 seconds, then exhale through the mouth as the tummy flattens, for 8 seconds. A fairly healthy person shouldn’t have a problem doing this at least 3 times per set.
- Break down tasks. Whatever circumstance we all are faced with definitely involves action steps which when taken, can lessen; if not get rid of the stressful situation at hand. So, break down tasks. Figure out what steps need to be done in order to solve problems. A couple losing the romance in their relationship, for example, need to agree on activities that they need to consistently do with each other in order to keep the ‘spark’ intact. Breaking down different tasks into simple action steps — a regular weekly date, holding hands or even dancing with each other, are easy-enough-to-do activities that they can agree on.
- Work on your tasks, from the simplest to the most complicated/time consuming. Practically ensure success by doing simpler action steps first; moving towards more complicated ones, after. The couple working on their relationship in our previous example seems to have a fairly uncomplicated strategy to take care of their bond. As we know, though, affection is not necessarily easy to regain. So, the broken down strategies still need to be grouped into daily, simple-to-follow activities, like the holding of hands and regular weekly dates; then, into a bit more focused introspection from each individual where they need to maybe commit to meditating on their given situations daily, writing on journals and finding activities which would enable them to focus more on the strengths of the other and the characteristics that they found endearing about each other in the first place. They both need to be open to doing the tedious task of waiting, and possibly even finding a third party to help them help themselves better.
Being organized brings out a sense of control over situations and the feeling of being in control brings about confidence. Confidence means less stress; and less stress means happiness and peace of mind.
Life isn’t easy but we can have the tools to get by with success. Let us choose to learn how to implement these tools so we all don’t have to worry about life being hard, too much.
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